by Michael Lodge
Monday, yesterday, was the most depressing day I think I have had in months. Not because it was Halloween, but because of the road that I got put on this year. When you are hit with a crises it is really big at the beginning, but then as the weeks and months go on you become a little stronger, you become focused on what you need to do, and you just go for it and do it. But then there are days when something pops up and reminds you of the issue, and then you receive a negative email, and you see everyone out having fun on a holiday night but you are still in the office responding to issues. When God created the feeling of feeling sorry for yourself he really did a good job. The feeling that there is no one to talk to, no one to consult with, you can’t talk to your employees, so you become your own adviser. Being a human being sucks on some days. And being a tax guy the clients that call in or come in to the office can either be happy or they can really be Debbie Downers on your day.
So what have I learned from this experience? To not take things personal. Yes your going to have a bad day, maybe a mad client – don’t take it personal because everything can be resolved. We seem to take everything personal, so my rule has been since this past April – never dwell on issues for more than ten minutes, move one, find a resolution, but keep moving forward.
Great quote, “Don’t dwell on what went wrong. Instead, focus on what to do next. Spend your energies on moving forward toward finding the answer. Denis Waitley”
When I got home last night I turned on Netflix, my friend to make me dream a little through humor and entertainment. I found a new show called “The Ranch”. This is a great show, makes me laugh, but it also reminds me of when I was young. I grew up on a ranch, cutting hay, picking it up and putting it on the back of the tractor, weeding the garden and planting new gardens. And when I was in College I worked on the college dairy farm, getting up at 5 am, rushing in to milk the cows, then go out to the fields and set the big on lines of sprinklers on the hay fields. The early morning was the most peaceful time, yes it was busy, but very calming at the same time as you worked with the cows. Cows don’t talk back when they are happy, they just look at you chewing the cud. I think cows have the same idea, don’t dwell on the milking, produce the milk needed, and move forward. As I watch “The Ranch” a lot of good feelings came over me as I remembered working on the farm with the cows. By the way, someone once told me that every single day you will see something with a cow on it. You will never go a day without seeing a cow – in some form.
At the end of the night, before I turned off the light to sleep, I was thankful for the day and to end it thinking about cows. Moving forward. Forgetting the bad day. And perhaps next year after tax season, spend some time on a working ranch – just for the fun of it. Bad days come and they go, it is up to the individual to move forward and don’t take things so personally.
Final quote, “It’s a wonderful world. You can’t go backwards. You’re always moving forward. It’s the wonderful part about life. And that’s terrific. Harvey Fierstein”
Yep, it’s not so bad. Bad days come and they go, but your still here moving forward.