Being Financially Polite


by Michael Lodge

My father always taught me that you never talk about how much you make, never ask people how much they make, never ask what they paid for it, and you never brag or show off what you have.  Those rules are what make people stand out because they are not consumed by the want of money but rather the want of doing great things – accomplishment of their goals.  They have no need to show off money, watches, shoes, new cars, etc.  To talk about possessions and money is seen as low class with an agenda.  So let’s get being polite right.

Never ask anyone how much they make.  It is none of your business.  If someone asks you, the correct response is enough to spend time with you.  To ask a co-worker how much they make is really unprofessional.  Again, none of your business and it is time to realize that to ask it shows you add no value to your employer, it appears you are more focused on cash and not what you can add to your profession.  Same issue in friendships, are you a friend or more concerned about what you can get out of the relationship.  Stop asking crass questions that put people off.  It is none of your business.  Friendship is never about money, if for you it is then you will be jumping from friendship to friendship.  People catch on quickly to agendas.

One issue that really gets to me is the showing off on social media.  Gosh, how many times do I have to see shoes, watches, and other name brand stuff spread out on peoples bed.  I don’t care what you bought, I don’t care what you wear.  If you have to show it off, it is a sign you have an issue of trying to grab attention.  Your getting attention alright, but it is not from friends.  Showing off on social media is just dumb.  Those of wealth never show off what they bought, they are the silent wealth that have respect for other people.  They are financially polite.  Showing off is not wealth.  By the way, if you have a tax problem the IRS is watching you on social media also, they want to know what you are buying with unpaid taxes you owe them.

Never talk about how much wealth you have.  That is a big turn off to just about everyone.  People will drop you like a hot potatoe.  If you have wealth, don’t talk about it, instead put it to use for good things.  You just do it – you never talk about it.  Giving comes from the heart and not from the mouth.  If you have wealth you have a responsibility in many areas of life, use it to do good.

Talking about money, asking bad questions about money,showing off possessions is not wealth.  Real friends don’t need to impress you as a friend with wealth, a friend only wants to be impressed by your true friendship.

Best quote ever – 

“Everyone wants to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.” 

― Oprah Winfrey